Sourav-Sana Ganguly episode presents the dangers of parental responsibility in the Internet age


By Naomi Datta

On the day of the protest against the Citizenship (Amendment) Act in Mumbai, a friend with my teenage daughters told me in quick nuisance: "My daughters want to keep building signs and protest CAA."

Not sure how to handle this. Like most urban and grand parents of this generation, his attitude was a moral amusement. There is an academic commitment to liberal values, but it is negotiable and largely consumable.

These are not households that encourage active fanaticism – except for some racist jokes in the family's WhatsApp group. But what is a happy, extended WhatsApp family group with no passive fanaticism, inadequate humor and a good morning ahead?

The friend's confusion came from a place of confusion – nothing from his parents' methods could arouse this zeal for his offspring. It was embarrassing.

It wasn't that hard for me to understand – it just had kids with internet access, kids with attitudes, mindsets and values ​​from the web. The internet had replaced the parent as the ultimate source of knowledge.

This seems kind of general, I have to admit. Not worth stacking up, you can argue. What do you say about the Theory of Social Proof? This was known by the psychologist Robert Cialdini. It tells you that people often look for a report of proper behavior in a situation. They look at others to mimic actions, especially during a crisis. This is a theory that explains the social influence of peers on human behavior. And where would your kids find colleagues with social influence? Not in your family's WhatsApp group, but in the Instagram feed. So, unlike you, which will eventually develop into a slightly upgraded version of your parents, your children will be potential people you cannot recognize.

I think, leaving to herself, 18-year-old Sana Ganguly may have told her famous father, Sourav Ganguly, "OK Boomer". That would be right after the former cricketer, and the BCCI chief sent a tweet saying that his daughter's Russian Instagram post on the "fascist regime" was "true" and that "he is too young to learn anything about politics" .

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I can't discuss both – the authenticity of Sana's post, which was later deleted (he had shared an excerpt from Khushwant Singh's book The End of India) or his understanding of politics. But I can think that one of the best brains of cricketing in the country has little understanding of the parental role in the Internet age.

Before that, a quick test. Do you know what OK means? If you have children, an internet connection and this phrase leaves you with gaps, you have a lot to cover.

OK Boomer is a derogatory farewell used to break up a generation older than you and which is out of sync with what's happening in your world. While technically this means Baby Boomers (born between 1946 and 1964), it is actually used to disorient someone with a conservative and outdated mentality. And if parents don't understand how social media shapes their genetic stock, they are all just boomers.

So how do you negotiate parental responsibility in the age of social media? You could try to block all Internet access – but you are a parent, not a government.

You still want your kids to like you – well, pretty much.

Therefore, as a non-parent expert, I give you a handy guide to bringing up descendants who have access to the Internet.

First, respect must be earned, not demanded. If you think we are born to children, we comfort them and educate them, it gives you the right to respect your views on genes, stop being right. Nothing in the world is the way you say it. Parental responsibility is no longer working. Unfortunately.

Gaining your children's respect means understanding the weird universe in which they live – your self-centered and sometimes non-communicative children are socially sensitive beings on the platforms of their choice.

He is "awakened", gives emotional ventilation and often talks about activating it.

A therapist I met recently said that many of her millennials and Gen Z clients are coming to her with the desire to post on social media to go for treatment. By the way, no one hangs out to talk to their parents. I am just saying.

So if your teen wants a therapist or counselor, you will only get one. Also, I can see you googling & # 39; waking up. Hold for a while. You really do. It will help in the next tip.

The thing is if you want to stay friends with your kids, wipe out all the humor. This is not a generation for your jokes about communities, gender and ridiculous people. Everything is incredibly problematic and it's best not to try. Try to get the toy with your baby on the spot though – it could help communicate better with your kids.

Coming into communication, there is another theory we can bring to better understand your children. It's called the parent-adult-child model. Psychologist Eric Berne has come to this – and quite simply, it means that at different points in a relationship – not just parents – you take on different roles over others – a parent (this is corrective), an adult (equal and rational) and the child (you are at risk). to lose).

In the new parental care model, you are never the parent. You may aspire to be an adult, but you will probably end up being a child to your child. The last piece of Berne didn't say. I did it and it's not a perfectly accurate analysis. It is just to point out that you will never be the one with your child with internet access.

All you can do is try.

Naomi Datta is a Mumbai-based writer.

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